I help men become the best version of themselves: healthy, loving and strong. They work with me to become the sons, brothers, spouses, and fathers their families deserve, and to achieve the life they deserve. I specialize in helping men whose anxiety, depression, anger, and/or addiction are interfering with their relationships and goals. I can also help couples break the same old pattern that has them fed up and exhausted. Life can be much, much better than this
You keep replaying that last argument in your head or imagining the next one. Your body is along for the ride. The pit in your stomach, the chest tightness, as if it were happening right now. You're impatient and irritable. Talking about it leads to arguing, so you keep it all inside, until you blow up again. The things you turn to in order to cope cause more problems. No more. You want your choices to align with your values. You want to be calm and present. You want your relationships to be peaceful and close. I can help.
— Chris Tomkins, LPC
I work with adults across Essex County, NJ and throughout New Jersey — in person in Caldwell and via telehealth. These are the people I see most often, and the situations I'm best equipped to help with.
I'm probably more direct than most therapists. I'll tell you what I see. If something is getting in your way, I'll name it. Respectfully, but clearly. Therapy that just reflects things back without going anywhere isn't useful, and I don't practice it.
That said, there's nothing harsh about my approach. I'm genuinely on your side. In couples work especially, I'm firmly against the problem behaviors damaging the relationship — not against either person. I create an alliance between myself and the people in the room, pointed at the patterns, not at each other.
"Anxiety, depression, anger, and addiction are treatable conditions. I help people be their best selves: healthy, loving, and strong. That is not a tagline. It is what I've watched people become when the conditions are right and the work gets done."— Chris Tomkins, LPC · Caldwell, NJ
A sliding scale is available for clients who may not be able to afford the standard rate. Reach out to ask, I'd rather find a way to make it work than have cost be a barrier.
I am an out-of-network provider. I don't bill insurance directly. I provide a superbill after each session that you can submit to your insurance company for potential reimbursement.
Many clients receive partial reimbursement through out-of-network mental health benefits. I recommend calling the member services number on your insurance card to check your coverage before your first session.
HSA and FSA accounts are accepted.
I provide individual, couples, and addiction therapy in Caldwell, NJ — in person and via telehealth throughout New Jersey. Below is an overview of the primary areas I treat.
Anxiety doesn't just mean worrying a lot. For many people it shows up as irritability, chest tightness, avoidance, or an inability to be present, especially in their closest relationships. I provide anxiety therapy in Caldwell, NJ using evidence-based CBT and Relational Life Therapy for adults across Essex County.
Depression isn't always sadness. It often looks like numbness, withdrawal, and going through the motions. I offer depression therapy in Caldwell, NJ for adults across Essex County who are ready to reconnect with their lives and the people they care about.
I specialize in outpatient addiction therapy for substance use disorders and behavioral addictions. This includes alcohol, gambling, internet addiction, sex addiction, and video game addiction. I serve clients in Caldwell, West Caldwell, Montclair, and throughout Essex County, NJ.
I work with high-conflict couples, couples experiencing growing distance, and those recovering from betrayal, using Terry Real's Relational Life Therapy. Weekly couples counseling and two-day "Save the Marriage" Intensives available in Caldwell, NJ and Essex County.
Serving Caldwell, West Caldwell, North Caldwell, Essex Fells, Verona, Montclair, Livingston, Roseland, Cedar Grove, Bloomfield, and all of Essex County, NJ. Telehealth available throughout New Jersey.
Yes — I'm actively accepting new individual clients and couples in Caldwell, NJ and throughout Essex County. The best way to get started is a free 20-minute consultation. You can book directly online at any time.
Direct, practical, and genuinely on your side, but honest. I'll tell you what I see. I'm not the kind of therapist who just reflects things back and waits for insight to emerge on its own. Therapy should move. That said, there's nothing harsh about my approach, I'm warm toward the people I work with and firm against the patterns hurting them. In couples work especially, I create an alliance between myself and both partners, pointed at the problem, not at each other.
Yes. All individual and couples services are available via secure telehealth to anyone in New Jersey. In-person sessions are available at my office at 12 Smull Avenue, Caldwell, NJ — just off Bloomfield Avenue. Many clients choose a mix of both depending on their schedule.
My office is in Caldwell, NJ, and I see clients in person from throughout Essex County — including West Caldwell, North Caldwell, Verona, Montclair, Livingston, Roseland, Cedar Grove, Bloomfield, Essex Fells, and Nutley. Via telehealth, I work with clients anywhere in New Jersey.
In individual therapy, we focus on what's happening inside you. The anxiety, depression, addiction, or behavioral patterns that are getting in the way of the life and relationships you want. In couples therapy, the relationship itself is the focus. I use Terry Real's Relational Life Therapy for both, but the structure, pace, and goals are quite different. Many couples find that one partner also doing individual work alongside couples sessions accelerates progress significantly.
Yes, and often they need to be treated together. Anxiety and depression are deeply connected for many people. Anxiety is the nervous system in overdrive; depression is often the exhaustion that follows. I pay close attention to how they interact in your specific situation rather than treating them as separate problems with separate solutions. Both respond well to CBT and the relational approach I use.
Yes. I hold both the Approved Clinical Supervisor (ACS) and Certified Clinical Supervisor (CCS) credentials, and I provide supervision to associate-level counselors pursuing licensure in New Jersey and to those working in addiction settings. If you're a clinician looking for a supervisor, reach out directly.
I'm an out-of-network provider, which means I don't bill insurance directly. After each session I provide a superbill you can submit to your insurance company for potential reimbursement. Many clients receive partial reimbursement through their out-of-network mental health benefits. I also offer a sliding scale for clients who may not be able to afford the standard rate, please reach out to ask. HSA and FSA accounts are accepted.
The easiest first step is scheduling a free 20-minute consultation. We'll talk briefly about what's bringing you in, how I work, and whether it seems like a good fit — no commitment required. You can book online anytime at the link below.
I'm currently accepting new clients in Caldwell, NJ and throughout Essex County. The first step is a free consultation - a brief conversation to see if I'm right for you.
Schedule a Free Consultation12 Smull Ave, Caldwell, NJ 07006 · 973-500-8892 · Essex County, NJ